Do the holidays–or even the thought of them–make you feel frazzled and stressed out? Whether you’re preparing an epic feast, shopping for the perfect gift, or listening to family members fumble through a conversation, it can be a huge challenge to stay present and mindful during the holiday season.
My personal trick is to apply the same concepts during these times of joy– and stress–that I use during meditation or yoga. Throughout this post, I’ll take you through each of these steps that help me stay present during the holidays.
Cheers to a joy-filled season!
Stay in the moment
Have you ever noticed (even when it’s not the holiday season) that you start drifting off from what you should be focusing on in the present moment in order to worry about something else? A lot of the time, family-related issues can evoke those stressful “time-travel” moments when you’re physically in one spot but your mind is miles away.
You can bring body and mind back in sync by intentionally pulling yourself into the present. Focus on what’s around you, starting with your breathing. I know; it might sound elementary, but it works! Focus on every breath until you feel truly grounded. Soon, you’ll start noticing small things around you that will help calm you down. Really paying attention to your surroundings will help pull you back into–and keep you in–the present moment.
Ditch the expectations
Well, okay, you don’t have to completely ditch them; “re-examine” might be a better verb. Expectations are entirely reasonable; hey, we all have them! You’ve likely envisioned how you want the holidays to turn out, despite the limitations that Covid-19 has placed on us. If all goes well, your wishes will turn into reality.
The challenge is not to attach yourself to these expectations. In the event that things veer off track, keeping a loose grasp on your expectations can help you pivot quickly. Roll with the moment, and you’ll find that no matter what comes your way, you will enjoy your holidays with more ease.
Find something to appreciate
Family dynamics come in all shapes and sizes, and this is especially evident when everyone gathers in one room for a holiday feast. Does Uncle tell the same story over and over again? Does Auntie never fail to offer everyone unsolicited advice? It can get tiring as heck, but let it roll off your back this year. Instead, look for the moments of tranquility sandwiched in between the servings of food. Try focusing on one thing you like about each person, and build from there. You’ll be shocked at the mindset shift!
Nurture yourself
We spend so much time planning the perfect gathering, cooking the best food, and choosing the best gifts that we run ourselves ragged in the process. Be kind to yourself while you prep for the holidays. Set aside time to read a book, enjoy your favorite TV show, soak in the tub, pray, meditate, or whatever else fills your cup. When you nurture your own needs, you are much better equipped to nurture those around you.
Count your blessings
Everyone has hard days. But even on those tough days, I’m confident you can find something to be grateful for. There is a bounty of blessings, from small to large, hiding in the details of our everyday lives. Take some time each morning to dwell on what’s good in your life. Jot down 5-10 things you’re grateful for, no matter how small.
And when all else fails, take a little time to help those who aren’t as fortunate. It might be as simple as making a call or sending someone a message of encouragement. You’ll be putting a smile on someone else’s face and unlocking the way to a more mindful and present life during the holidays.
How are you planning to be present during this holiday season?
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